Marriage Help - He Loves you, but hes not in Love with you Anymore!



Posted: Thursday, October 30, 2008

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Vision Quest Life Coaching

So, you're motoring along on the autopilot of love, and you're completely oblivious to the looming bombshell that's about to be dropped!

Life is good or so it seemed, until you wake one day to discover that your relationship has been nuked! Like most, you were completely blindsided by the shock and emotional paralysis of having your partner say the following: "I love you, but I'm not in love with you anymore!" Most women would agree that this is not only a devastating statement, but it's also one of the most bewildering! What exactly can you extrapolate from such a confusing statement? Does he love me or doesn't he? Why would he say such a thing when I thought our relationship was fine? What does this mean? Is our relationship over?

First, let me give you a bit of good news; your relationship isn't over! However, taking the right course of action to save it is crucial to a positive outcome. One of the worst things you can do when faced with such a crisis is to let your negative emotions drive your actions! So, step back and take a deep breath before you do anything that will exacerbate the crisis.

Ok, now that you are thinking more clearly lets talk about the underpinning reason behind your partner's statement. Generally speaking, when someone drops the "I love you, but I'm not in love with you" bombshell, they are trying to convey your failure to meet their emotional needs. Now, let me make something crystal clear; this is not about who's right or wrong. If you want to debate that point, then you may as well sign the divorce settlement agreement or waive goodbye as your partner walks out the door!

If you want to save your relationship, you must uncover the emotional needs that have gone unmet. More often than not, fears, insecurities, and low self-esteem are at the root of these issues. Think about it for a moment! Has your behavior exhibited patterns of jealousy, lack of trust, fear of abandonment, or low self-confidence? Plain and simple, you can't force your partner to fall in love you again, but you can entice him to by correcting the negative patterns responsible for the crisis and by employing the power of attraction. Change your side of the relationship, and I guarantee your partner will fall hopelessly in love with you all over again!

Best wishes,

The Relationship Rehab Coach

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